Zombie No More – Tap into Your Heart to Come Alive (www.restandgrow.com)

 

ZOMBIE NO MORE

 

This post’s for you, my fellow zombies.

You know what it’s like to feel drained, pained, and tired of it all. Your reasons may be different from mine, but you know what it’s like to go for days without a hunger for life, without an appetite for wonder, without feeling anything at all.

You may know what it’s like to be sleepless while exhausted to your bones.

Or you may know what it’s like working hard to get back up, only to be falling down in a slump again. Each day feels like an uphill battle and you’re stuck in a sinking hole you can’t seem to get out from.

That’s me, the last few weeks.

With the media saturated with the shocking news of Brussels attacks, horror at the beach at Ivory Coast, and Pakistan bombing, plus a whole load of tragedies happening before, during, and after, I got a little jaded.

I’ve been too tired to care lately.

I see people reaching out to the victims of these atrocities and I start to wonder why they even bother. I know in my head they’re doing the right thing, but in my heart, I felt dead.

I refused to grieve, refused to be touched by the pain and suffering of this world, refused to care, refused to speak up from my heart, and I stuffed it all in.

I was doing it out of self preservation. I have not been well, not sleeping well, and have not been feeling hungry for a while. I didn’t know what was going on with me, but I knew  I didn’t want to feel more drained than I already am—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

But when I chose not to feel and care, I was also choking the life out of me.

I became a zombie.

It’s no wonder I experienced days without hunger, nights without sleep, weeks without peace. I was like the walking dead, and that’s because I chose to be dead to my emotions. This inner suffocation was a main cause of me being and feeling unwell.

But I got my “hungry” back today and I’m so grateful and happy to share with you how I got unstuck and feel ALIVE again.

I tapped into my heart. When was the last time you checked-in with yours, and allowed you to listen-in?

2am this morning, I finally stopped struggling against my state of being and surrendered. I allowed myself to be still, and to see what’s going on with my heart.

A single word emerged:  Disturbance.

Then I wrote about the disturbances that came to mind. The daily uncertainty and fear. The weekly explosions of violence, hate and despair. The monthly political crisis. The yearly disasters. Clearly, there is a major disturbance in the world. That’s nothing new.

What was renewed though, was a timeless wisdom:

The disturbances “out there”, is a mirror reflection of the disturbances “in here”.

There’s a war going on inside of me. As long as I refused to care, and secretly harboured thoughts of violence, hate, and anger towards the violent, hateful and angry, I was becoming just like them, and I was the one setting off massive explosions from within.

It’s no wonder rest-fullness has given way to rest-lessness.

The fire of anger, hatred and fear was engulfing my spirit’s fire of compassion, love and faith. We need to guard our fire, both the light and the dark. They both exist in us.

We can use this fire in our belly for destruction or for creation.

Guard your fire. Use it for Life.

Instead of being a weapon of war, may we be an instrument of peace. May the change we wish to see in our world, be seen in me and you. It begins with me. It begins with you.

It begins with us.

Acknowledging the war that is going on within, and coming to terms with the disturbances instead of stuffing it all away, will set you free. You’ll feel Life flowing in and out again. Feel your heart opening up again. And maybe for the first time in a long while, you’ll feel HUNGRY for life and come Alive again.

I read this today, and I got to share it ‘cos it’s so good and relevant to this post:

“I need to recognise that I’m in a river that is bigger than I am. The foundation and the flow of that river is love. Life is not about me; it is about… love.

When we don’t know love, when we don’t experience love, when we experience only the insecurity and fragility of the small self, we become restless.

We even become violent and hateful because the unconscious knows” this is not who I am,” and “this is not who we are.”

…We cannot live in a disconnected life with negative judgemental and violent thoughts in our hearts. We protest that we never do anything dangerous with these thoughts. But the trouble is that they do something with us.

They leave us separate, isolated, and therefore false to ourselves and eventually false to others.

But in contemplation, we move to a different space where we see the illusion of separateness.” – Richard Rohr, Everything Belongs, pg 79-80

What’s getting you stuck lately? Do you feel like a zombie? Unable to feel, unable to heal, unable to love? Are you ready to shift that and tap into your heart? Take action and let me know how that works out for you. Leave comments below – I’d love to hear back from you!

Lots of Zombie Love (not dead-love, but REAL-ALIVE-LOVE for my fellow zombies!),

Mish, Blogger at The Love Culture and Founder of rest & grow – a rest stop for the soul to renew, refuel, and recharge.

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

The Gift of Regret—in Love, and in Life—is Another Chance to Live in Love. – Love, Mish. www.restandgrow.com

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All of us—if we have a heart and a conscience—will have some minor and major regrets in life. It just means we’ve made some mistakes, and we’ve learnt our lesson. Or have we?

Why do some regrets—still raw from the heat of the moment—annoy us till no end? And why do some ancient regrets still come back to haunt us years and years after?

If you’re ready to grow on, the invitation for you is to have a different relationship with Regret.

Instead of seeing Regret as your enemy, can you let it serve you better by seeing it as your own ally?

Could it be, Regret is stubbornly hanging around, because your soul knows there is an important lesson you still need to learn? When you crash and burn in life, you need to live and learn so you won’t make the same mistake. If the lesson has not connected with…

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The Gift of Regret—in Love, and in Life—is Another Chance to Live in Love. – Love, Mish. www.restandgrow.com

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All of us—if we have a heart and a conscience—will have some minor and major regrets in life. It just means we’ve made some mistakes, and we’ve learnt our lesson. Or have we?

Why do some regrets—still raw from the heat of the moment—annoy us till no end? And why do some ancient regrets still come back to haunt us years and years after?

If you’re ready to grow on, the invitation for you is to have a different relationship with Regret.

Instead of seeing Regret as your enemy, can you let it serve you better by seeing it as your own ally?

Could it be, Regret is stubbornly hanging around, because your soul knows there is an important lesson you still need to learn? When you crash and burn in life, you need to live and learn so you won’t make the same mistake. If the lesson has not connected with you yet, Regret is the vehicle that gets too close for comfort on the road of life, shooting you high beams till you start paying attention to whatever it is you need to wake up to.

In the past, I can be so oblivious to the signs and warnings, or stubbornly ignore the voice of Regret as she cuts into my way, yelling out the window some words I didn’t want to hear. But then I’d end up making the same painful mistakes—again and again.

When I stopped resisting, I learnt that the Gift of Regret, in love, and in life, is another chance to live in love.

What this means is simple.

You take your big ball of Regret in Love and in Life, and let it serve as a living reminder to choose again from a place of Love. You allow the sharp pain of Regret to remind you to stay present in this moment, and not waste another chance to act and speak from a place of Love. It’s never too late to be the better man / woman that you know you are. For some of us, it might be too late for our deceased parents, family, friends or pets to see this wholesome version of ourselves. Or we might have missed our chance after a painful break-up, or divorce. But it’s never too late to show up at our best and be a good human being.

Do it for you. Do it for the rest of the world. LIVE LOVE for the rest of your life.

As Maya Angelou says, “I did then what I know how. When I know better, I do better, that’s all.”

For the full post with my personal story on how regret became a Gift, read here:http://www.restandgrow.com/gift-regret-love-life-another-c…/

Are you still stuck with Regret? How do you deal with it when it hits real bad? Would having a different relationship with Regret create a shift for you? Take action and let me know how it’s working out for you. Leave comments / questions below. I’d love to hear from you!:)

Love, Mish

Blogger at The Love Culture and Founder of rest & grow – a rest stop for the soul to renew, refuel, and recharge.

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

SWITCH from Weariness to Awesomeness – www.restandgrow.com

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If you’re human (of course you are), you’d know very well what it feels like to be:

Weary

Empty

Tired

Depleted

If you’re tired of being tired, this post is for you. 

Many of us have been feeling down and out for way too long. If there’s anything we can take out from the Brussels bombing, and all the tragedies happening in the world, it’s that tomorrow might be too late! Are you STILL WAITING, hoping for a better tomorrow?

How long have you been putting your personal Joy and happiness on hold? How long have you been holding back your Gifts? What have you been putting off for years because you’re too weary to do something about it? It could be a plan, a goal, a dream, or a person you’ve been wanting to go on a date with. But you’re sitting on it instead of acting on it, because you’re STUCK with weariness. If you know that you don’t have time for this (to stay stuck) and you’re ready to make the SWITCH to AWESOMENESS, read on.

This morning, I experienced a powerful switch…

After 3 intense weeks of giving my 100% to trainings, work and other commitments + dealing with a stubborn cold and cough that’s physically draining, I crashed this week. I took out my writing pad, listed down all the things I was struggling with, and the words weary, empty, tired, and depleted showed up. I looked at it, and was completely depressed. I have no time for this! I’m tired of being tired. I need my health and my energy back to do what I need to do. I’ve lost my spark and appetite. I feel UNINSPIRED.

But here’s what I’m reminded of today. Our strength lies in the heart of our struggle. Just as addiction is a door to restoration, and rest-lessness holds the key to rest-fullness, each of my struggles were personal invitations pointing me back to wholeness:

Weary -> Time to RENEW

Empty -> Time to REFUEL

Tired -> Time to RECHARGE

Depleted -> Time to REPLENISH

With this new awareness, I discovered how to get my awesome back, and so can you! Find out how: http://www.restandgrow.com/switch-weariness-awesomeness/

More LOVE, POWER & ENERGY to You!

Mish, Blogger at The Love Culture and Founder of rest & grow – a rest stop for the soul to renew, refuel, and recharge.

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

Let’s Create More Rest-Fullness, Freedom and Love in Our Lives!

Dear LOVERS!

The reason for my long hiatus is because I’ve been up to something good! 😉

If you liked what I shared here on The Love Culture, there’s more awesome waiting for you at rest & grow, my new site.

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LIKE + SHARE + JOIN the rest & grow community. Together, you and I will begin an adventure in creating more Rest-Fullness, Freedom and Love in our lives!:)

LOTS of LOVE,
Mish, blogger at The Love Culture and Founder of rest & grow – a rest stop for the soul to renew, refuel, and recharge. http://www.restandgrow.com

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

“Happy New Year and may favour, wisdom, strength and peace guide and guard you.” – Liz

We are 7 days in to the New Year. How’s it going so far? Each new day is a golden chance to Begin Again. Given a new start, new beginning, and a new chapter, what would you like to fill the story of your life with? Think about that for a second. Make it good! You deserve nothing less. Let’s stop playing it safe and small. This is your year. Step into your greatness.

And I’d like to quote my baby sis and wish you all a “Happy New Year and may favour, wisdom, strength and peace guide and guard you.”

Love, Mish

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

Rest and Reflect: What is Your Word for 2016? It Matters, because You Do.

As the year is powering down to an end, 9 more days to be exact, do yourself a favour. Take a moment to hug this question to sleep and in your waking hours: What is YOUR WORD for 2016?

If you could begin a new life story with just one word, what would it be?

In 2014, I invited you to think about your word for 2015. A few of my friends took up the invitation. They picked their word, grew with it, as I did with mine. And on Sunday, my friend Mel shared with me her story.

She said, “I’m so happy. My word is Bold. I can see how I became bolder this year, and happier, too. This is why I want to spend the next 11 days (her precious end year leave) thinking about my word for 2016…”

I was so happy to hear that. And I believe her experience is possible for anyone willing to make time to rest and reflect on their word.

My word for 2015 was Grace. It turned out to be a fitting word, as it has been a massively challenging year. I found myself thrown into a lot of messy situations that required Grace, and learning what Grace means.

Thankfully, I get to experience Grace over and over again, as much as I need to learn what Grace is all about. And I can only hope to show the same measure of Grace I’ve been shown in my life. It’s not easy, but the hope is in the trying. And I know I will spend a lifetime learning what Grace means, even as I continue to grow in it, through it, and with it.

The good news is, every word you pick for one year, comes with you into the next. It continues to be a part of you, if you let it. It’s just parked under your new word. You will find yourself growing more and more into your word/s, or rather, the word grows more and more into you.

You and your word will become one. You live it in your life, until it becomes you.

So, if you’re ready to level up (shoutout to my awesome babe Estee for bringing this awesome term my way!) and grow, make time for yourself  to choose Your Word for 2016.

Choose a word that makes you curious, challenges you, and pushes you out of your comfort zone. Make it a word you can GROW with, that you would like to be a part of you. Make it a word you feel at rest and alive with.

Make it matter, because you do.

Love,

Mish.

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

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Let’s plant good seeds in the garden of our hearts. May we be nourished with a fruitful harvest of Love, Joy, and Peace

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Let’s plant good seeds in the garden of our hearts. The seeds of truth, and kind, loving thoughts. May it bring forth a fruitful harvest. May we be nourished, with Love, Joy and Peace. – The Love Culture

 

Love, Mish

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

It’s Only Fear

“You do not see that I see inside,
The quiet heart you’re trying to hide.

Don’t hold your head too high,
Don’t be afraid to cry,
Because you know my dear,
it’s only fear, it’s only fear.
…Keeps you locked in here.
Now you may believe you are so bright,
And you may not see how they confine your sight,
And maybe you wake up late at night,
Wondering why you feel so tired.
Well my dear, let me tell you now, do you hear,
It’s only fear, it’s only fear, it’s only fear,
…That keeps you locked in here.” – Alexi Murdoch, It’s Only Fear

Love, Mish

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“The Growth of one blesses all. I am committed to grow in Love.” – Julia Cameron

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