Living, Loving The Question

Can you tend to your questions like a green bean experiment?

Lay it out on soft cottons of patience? Watering it daily with hope and prayers, while allowing it plenty of room to breathe, even as you invite the Light of the Answer to shine on your seed? 

Or do you—like I used to do and sometimes still do—drown the question in a flood of noise and bury it deeper still, beneath the layers of fear?

On the flight back home from my 3rd Silent Retreat in the land of the flying lanterns, I took out a pen and wrote across the palm of my hand,

Living, Loving The Question.

It’s a reminder to me, even as I’m growing to appreciate the value of living the question. Going a step further, these days I actually hug the question to sleep, so I can hear the heart behind the hitting questions.

 “Notice what you notice” as we recently learned in the retreat, from Sheila Pritchard, author of ‘The Lost Art of Meditation’.

From one leaping squirrel of thought to the next tree of contemplation.

To a butterfly of questions fleeting quietly by, in ones, twos or threes.

Over and over again, I am learning, the answers are within the questions.

To place this little reflection into a firmer context, I want to share a little something I wrote to my friend a month back, but is still just as relevant:

All is not well in my world…
and yet, it is well. A paradox.

Several monsters came crashing into my world, all at the same time. Took a while to wrap my head and heart around it all.

I’ve not met someone who preys on human kindness before–but now that I have… I have no words to describe how I feel at the moment.

(But then I go on to describe those feelings as best as I can.)

At first it was shocking, then disgusting, and then disappointing, followed by anger. But then later, a sickening sense of fear took over. Now, it’s just kinda sad that a person would go through so much manipulation and deception to spin a web of lies to get what could’ve been given freely.

Before I was done dealing with that monster, another old one reared its ugly head. (This monster, is even more disturbing than the first!) I was really in the dark… as to what should / could be done about it all.

As I was seeking for Direction, one morning, the answer came in a familiar question.

“What would Love do?”

This time, I’m feeling so much resistance to this question.

“What Love would do?” is the hardest thing to do of all.

And yet, it is also the easiest.

It requires no force, no resistance, “no doing” in the sense that nothing can be done that has not been done… it only requires a new level of surrender… to what has to Be.

And what has to Be, will not be pleasant or easy.

Confronting the truth and reality of things rarely is.

But I read something today that is so apt and true.

“This interior integration and healing of the soul is our aim. But it can’t happen if we avoid the pain and tensions within us. Once, when my counselor and I were discussing Joseph Campbell’s captivating dictum “Follow your bliss,” he commented, “It may be just as important to follow your agony.”

Perhaps we can’t find our real bliss until we begin to confront our agony.” – Sue Monk Kidd

Follow your agony.
What would Love do.

Kind of the same thing.

End of cut and paste. Now I will add to that,

Living, Loving The Question.

It’s kind of the same thing, isn’t it?

To live and wait with the question can be an agonising experience, but as we Let Go and Let God, allow plenty of Son-Light in, growing stronger in Faith, Hope and Love, we’ll begin to realise it’s the loving thing to do.

Fear works the opposite. It drives you to kill the questions that were meant to be the seeds for growth.

Love on the other hand, sees the questions through and allows it to live and find its way into the light. Quietly, expectantly, hope-fully.




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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Love Does No Harm To Others

“If you LOVE your neighbour as much as you love yourself you will not want to harm…

…All ten (commandments) are wrapped up in this one:

to LOVE your neighbor as you LOVE yourself.

LOVE does no wrong to anyone.

That’s why it fully satisfies all of God’s requirements. It is the only law you need.” – Romans 13:9-10, (The Living Bible translation)

“LOVE does no harm to a neighbour;

therefore LOVE is the fulfillment of the law.” – Romans 13:10 (New King James Version)

“Who is my neighbour?”

An expert in the law had asked Jesus that question, after having tested Jesus on what must be done to inherit eternal life, according to the Law.

Jesus replied with the now world famous story of The Good Samaritan. And asked him in return, “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?”

The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.”

I am referring to passages found in Luke 10:25-37, just in case you may want to check that out for yourself, which I’d gladly encourage you to do.  

Besides the person / people living next door, Merriam-Webster dictionary also clearly defines Neighbour as, A Fellow Man.

A Fellow Human is your neighbour.

So what do we do with Our Fellow Man?

Jesus said, “This is my command: LOVE each other”. – John 15:17

And one of the hardest teachings of Jesus is found in Luke 6:27, “But I tell you who hear me: LOVE your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you… If you (only) love those who love you, what credit is that to you?”

But it makes total sense that He would ask this of us, because it means:

LOVE your neighbour as yourself.

LOVE does no wrong to anyone.

LOVE does no harm to a neighbour.

I love this song by Jason Mraz, “What Would Love Do?” When a friend, Stephen Ryan, shared this song with me, what struck me was its similarity to the famous question “What Would Jesus Do?” But the version he gave me didn’t have Jason telling us how he came up with the idea for the song. So I find it amusing when I discovered his thoughts behind it…

“There’s a famous bumper sticker that says What Would Jesus Do? I don’t know, I haven’t seen Him in a while. But what moves me is when I think What Would Love Do?

I realise it’s the same thing. So when you find yourself in any predicament, ask yourself, What Would Love Do?” – Jason, on his idea behind the song What Would Love Do?

I can see what Jason’s trying to do here. Sneaky. But I like how he drew a parallel between What Would Jesus Do? and What Would Love Do? If you know what Jesus is all about, you’d agree too, “It’s the same thing.”

Because I enjoy the slower, reflective version Stephen shared, more:




Michelle Tan is the Founder of The Love Culture ‎~ Inspiring A Loving Way Of Living.

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