Take that leap of Faith: OWN your disgrace, to experience Real GRACE

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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“Relationships never offer a guarantee. And they always require work. And therefore they don’t work for people who are not willing to work… without a guarantee.” – Leo Buscaglia

“Relationships never offer a guarantee. And they always require work.

And therefore they don’t work for people who are not willing to work.

And they don’t work for people who aren’t willing to work without a guarantee.

We’re always waiting for the right person to come along.

And we say that when they come along we will live happily ever after.

Doesn’t that make you wanna puke? I mean how old do we have to be before we realise that’s the most distractive myth? There’s no such thing as happily ever after anything.

And you’re waiting for the right person! I guarantee you’ll wait forever! There is no right person. You become the right person!” – Leo Buscaglia

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

The Love Culture on FB: https://www.facebook.com/theloveculture

Vulnerability

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Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

The Love Culture on FB: https://www.facebook.com/theloveculture

“You are more than what you think you are.”

Here’s my thought of the day… We get ourselves into a mess to get over a mess… It all ends up a bigger mess… When will this ever stop? When we love ourselves enough to believe we’re worth it, and worthy of love… We keep going back to the scraps in the bin, when we’re hungry for love, because we’ve forgotten our own worth along the way, when the journey is long and hard and lonely… We forget who we are…

“You are more than what you think you are,” someone once said to me, the first time we met in Finland.  He said he just felt like that’s the message he had to pass to me. His words are coming back to me today.

“You are more than what you think you are.”

“You are more than what you think you are.”

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

The Love Culture on FB: https://www.facebook.com/theloveculture

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves

“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.” – Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

“To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees – these are risks that involve vulnerability and often pain. But, I’m learning that recognizing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with joy, gratitude and grace.” – Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” 
– Brené Brown, Daring Greatly

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Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” – Brené Brown 

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.” – Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

The Love Culture on FB: https://www.facebook.com/theloveculture

Wholehearted 2014

“Live and Love with my Wholeheart: Authenticity is a daily practice. Choosing Authenticity means… Cultivating the Courage to be Imperfect. To set Boundaries and allow ourselves to be Vulnerable.

Exercising the Compassion… that comes from knowing that… We are all made of Strength and Struggle… and connected to each other through a loving and resilient human spirit.

Nurturing the connection and a sense of belonging… that can only happen when we Let Go of… What we are supposed to be and embrace who we are.

Authenticity demands wholehearted living and loving. Even when it is hard… Even when we are wrestling with shame and fear… of not being good enough… and especially when the Joy is so intense… that we are afraid to let ourselves feel it…

Mindfully practising authenticity… during our most soul-searching struggles… is how we invite Grace, Joy & Gratitude into our lives. ” – Brené Brown

This morning, I received two mails in my inbox. The first was entitled “Crawling out of the whole”. The second mail entitled “Whole – hole”, was a short and embarrassed note to point out the apparent “mistake”.

I couldn’t help smiling and feeling this was no mistake at all.

Especially since the content of the mail could be summarised as a journey that progressed from being stuck and lost in darkness–just like being trapped in a hole–and coming out whole again.

And especially since my theme for this year is WHOLEHEARTED 2014.

I didn’t intend for this to be my “vision” for the year. But  when Brené Brown posted ‘Wishing you a blessed mess and a Wholehearted 2014’, the word Wholehearted leapt out at me, connected and stayed.

With wholeheartedness, I can Imagine bigger, bolder, wider, higher.

With wholeheartedness, I can challenge myself to give Life and Love MY ALL–even when it’s scary.

In return, giving my all will invite the kind of life and love experience I’ll be grateful for, knowing that I tried.

What’s inspiring is, everyone can make this their Wholehearted year.

This afternoon, I got into an interesting chat with Christelle on wholeheartedness vs halfheartness. It was insightful so we’re sharing:

“Any new year resolutions for 2014?” – C

“Yes. Wholehearted 2014! You?” – M

“Uhmms I actually don’t know of and don’t have any yet haha… but I hadn’t been wholehearted in 2013, now that you are sharing it… (I want) to learn from mistakes and be better!” – C

“Wow… that’s a powerful insight, if you feel that way about 2013… so now you get 2014 to give it your ALL. And yea, learning means growing. That’s good!” – M

“Yeahs to position myself where my heart lies. So I can be wholehearted with ease,” – C

“Position myself where my heart lies. What do you mean by that exactly…?” – M

“Uhmms hahah I find it hard to be wholehearted when my heart is somewhere else!

So I pray for opportunities where my heart is so I can be wholehearted. But I guess even if such opportunities don’t find me, I should be whole hearted too?

I didn’t realise that the very woes I was going through were due to me being halfhearted,” – C

It’s only the First Day of the New Year 2014. Be gentle with YOU as you do some soul-searching the next few days, weeks, months–all year long.

“I now see that cultivating a Wholehearted life is not like trying to reach a destination. It’s like walking toward a star in the sky. We never really arrive, but we certainly know that we’re heading in the right direction.” ― Brené Brown

Happy New Year and wishing you a WHOLEHEARTED 2014.

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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Daring Greatly Begins With Daring NOT To Be Great

Knocking on doors. Sharing my life’s work. Opening myself up to criticism. Stepping out of my comfort zone. Not hiding. Sending out emails and realizing later there were typo errors, things that could’ve been worded differently or best left unsaid. All of that, left me feeling the fear, uncertainty and discomfort of Vulnerability.

To allow myself to be in that Vulnerable place, has not been easy. I am scared. But I am also curious enough. However the response pans out, for better or worse, I know in the least I gave myself that chance by taking the first step. Now, I get to see what’s next.

Meanwhile, I get to wait.

And it is in the midst of waiting, that I am learning more about what it means to be Vulnerable. My inner critic is saying, “Look at your mistakes! It would’ve been better if you kept quiet. Or waited. Or perfected. Anything but doing what you did!” But my inner best friend is quoting Maya Angelou, “I did then what I know how. When I know better, I do better, that’s all.” So my inner best friend is cheering me on for trying.

Today, I wanted to understand more about Vulnerability.

What is its role in our life, our work and in our success?

So I looked up Brené Brown and came across a vid of her talking about Daring Greatly. I am resonating so much with everything she shared!

“I was in an incredibly difficult place. I was trying to show up in my work, and put myself out there. I was writing a lot and talking a lot about my research. And I felt like the more I did that, the more exposed I felt, the more afraid I felt and the more I was constantly ducking… criticism.

And I come across this quote by Theodore Roosevelt.

“It’s not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deed could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man who’s actually in the arena, who’s face is marred by dust and blood and sweat, who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes up short again and again. 

Who at best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement. 

Who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”

I know that there’s a myth that vulnerability is weakness. But it’s not. To show up, to let ourselves be seen. To try. To put ourselves out there when we’re not sure we’re going to succeed. That’s vulnerability. And that’s daring greatly. 

To bust through the fear of not being enough. 
Of not being perfect enough. Of not being bullet proof enough. 
Of the fear of failing… 

…The question is, what’s worth doing, even if I fail?” – Rene Brown, author of Daring Greatly.

Thinking these two words over and over again. Daring greatly. Daring greatly. Daring greatly. I began to realize that daring greatly begins with daring to NOT be great.

Daring to be imperfect. Daring to be seen, flaws and all. Daring to put yourself out there.

The hope is in not having to go through this alone.

“(It’s) Very necessary to have people in our lives, who, when we’re vulnerable, when we try something new, and it doesn’t work out, and it comes out short, who are willing to look at us and say, that you were brave,” Brené Brown, The Power of Being Vulnerable. 

“A group of people who… made an agreement… that we would be vulnerable and brave together… we would create a space where we never have to shrink. Who are really proud of what we’re doing and our successes. And we would never have to puff up when we’re feeling small and ashamed. That we were all going to be brave together…” Brené Brown

Do you have people in your life, who you can be vulnerable and brave with? Can others be vulnerable and brave, with you?

Lastly, a good reminder:

“Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.” – Brené Brown

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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