L-O-V-E is not just for the lucky few. It’s for Everyone. Happy Valentine’s Day.

What better time to get reconnected with what LOVE is, than Today? And Everyday ‘ever after’ that!

My favourite definition of LOVE is my favourite because it’s so practical:

“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Cor 13:4-7 (NIV)

Truth be told. I used to look at this definition of love and think, “When I get to heaven, maybe!” But in 2010, when my life got Shaken up to Awaken me, I began to realise something. It’s impossible to Love others in this way, only if I haven’t learned how to apply this definition of Love to myself.

Start with YOU.

GET CONSCIOUS of the way You Love You.

Love is patient, love is kind: Are you patient, with you? Are you kind, with you?

Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud: SELF-LOVE, my lovers. When we learn SELF-LOVE, we begin to see that it’s not about Compete and Compare, it’s about Complete and Complement! (I got schooled on these AMAZING 4Cs by my spiritual mentor Rinda. Thanks RINDA!)

Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs: Love means, Honor. Are you honouring yourself? Only when you learn to Honor yourself, can you truly Honor others. If you need to know that You Matter, begin by letting others know They Matter. And remember, be easier on yourself. Are you easily angered with you? Are you still holding on to your past mistakes? Be gentle with you. FORGIVE You. Learn what you can, then Let Go.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth: Are you replaying old stories of old hurts and old wounds and old offences and old betrayals and old mistakes, over and over again like a spoilt record–like you’re enjoying it? Pause. Stop. Recognise that this mind-pattern is a soul’s cry for Love. It’s time to Love the hurting, wounded, offended, betrayed, and flawed person in you. It’s also time to recognise that we are are more alike than unalike. For every suffering someone has inflicted on us, we too, may have unconsciously or consciously, caused suffering to others–perhaps in different ways and form. But suffering is still suffering.

Go in a new direction TODAY (and everyday after that). It’s time to be reconnected with the truth of You. The truth is that you’re WORTHY of Love, just as you are, right now. You don’t have to be perfect, to Be Loved. You are SO LOVED. More than you can ever imagine. Pray for your eyes to be opened to this truth, again and again, day after day.  

Love always protects: Are you protecting you? I am not talking about being defensive. I am talking about loving yourself enough to make CARING decisions that takes care of you. Only when you learn to protect yourself, can you do the same for others.

This could mean loving yourself enough to walk out on a relationship that is no longer Honoring you. You don’t actually love anyone, if you can’t even love yourself enough to extricate yourself from a sad and bad situation.

This could mean loving yourself enough to drink responsibly, and never drinking to the point of regretting some things you did when you were drunk. Some things can never be undone. But it’s never too late to learn. ‘When I know better, I do better, that’s all.’ – Maya Angelou.  

Love always trusts: Are you Trustworthy? Can YOU keep your promises to yourself? Everyday is another opportunity to be the kind of person YOU can trust. Learning to Trust You can come from painful outcomes in and out of a relationship. Chances are, your instincts already knew from the beginning this person was not right for you. It’s OK. Consider it as a painful lesson, and therefore a Gift, in learning to Trust You more next time.

And remember, LOVE ‘always hopes, always perseveres’: Don’t lose HOPE on you. Dare Yourself to hope again. DREAM UP good things for YOU and keep growing in that direction. Never give up believing in you. In relationships, someone can walk out on you for their own selfish reasons, but that’s just a reflection of their growth. YOU can choose to never walk out on you. Never let YOU go. Keep GROWING. Grow forward, with you.

That’s LOVE!

I’m a big believer in turning my STRUGGLE into STRENGTH. So I must confess. After all this time, I still get a little nervous come Valentine’s. I still find myself dreading the feeling of Single Awareness Day and feel a little SAD! ;- ) It’s silly, but IT’S REAL. And we know I’m not the only one. WE all struggle with insecurity. The beauty of it is TODAY (and everyday after this) is another wonderful opportunity to remind myself / ourselves:

L-O-V-E is not just for the lucky few. It’s for Everyone! Happy Valentine’s Day, Lovers!  

“The measure of a man, is the measure of his heart, and the measure of his heart, is the measure of his Love… You don’t measure me, like men, they see. You’re looking at my heart, the core of me… Your eyes of Fire, sees differently. Keep me in the gaze of Love… ” – Misty Edwards & David Brymer

With ALL my Love,


The Love Culture


“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

The Love Culture on FB: https://www.facebook.com/theloveculture

“What Would Love Do Now?” – Jason Mraz

“It’s nice to meet you. No, I’m not from outer space. 

But I’d like to take you, to a higher place… Where we won’t ever have to leave the ground… Just ask what love would do now.

If it’s got you thinking about a change of scenery
Try letting go of what it was or how things ought to be
And ask what love would do now,
Just ask what love would do now.

If you care to join me oh when you shake my hand,
Do not let go and soon you’ll understand
What it means to have a friend beside you,
Who’s there to remind you that love is what you are right now.

Ask what would love do,
What would love do,
What would love do now.
What would love do now.
What would love do now.

Ask what would love do,
What would love do,
What would love do now.
What would love do now.
What would love do now.

Oh, what would love do now.

Oh, Love would love to love you now.” – Jason Mraz

Happy Valentine’s Day, Lovers! 

May Love always be within you, all around you, and yours to have and to give… “Love is what you are… Love would love to love you now.” 




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

The Love Culture on FB: https://www.facebook.com/theloveculture

A Meditation On Love

“You’re my meditation, and my consolation, and I love You dearly…” these words in the song caught my eyes, as we lingered on, not wanting to leave or move or go anywhere.

The honesty of the moment was so precious. Our hearts were laid bare before Him, humbled by His Love, His Life and His Truth that was infilling the deepest and darkest cavities of our soul, with the Light of His Presence on Sunday.

This Monday morning, I’m grateful I was led to go back to Genesis 24, to the love story of Isaac and Rebekah. It begins with a big “What if” question (verse 5) and it calls for a Journey of Faith and Uncertainty.


Every moment had been a stepping stone, leading to the epic conclusion that–like the song–begins with a Meditation and ends with a Consolation.

In verse 63, “He went out to the field one evening to meditate, and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching. Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac…

How often have we felt like Isaac, out in the field, all alone? Loneliness—if we can embrace this time of longing for a belonging, as a thing of beauty—can turn out to be a gift of love. Isaac used his alone time to meditate.

As he looked up—perhaps to God, with a heart filled with unanswered questions yet again—he saw camels approaching. When you see The Promise approaching, do you see Camels or do you see a Person?

Rebekah saw Isaac.

As their eyes met from afar, so perfectly timed, I can imagine it was almost sunset and the skies were ablaze in hues of purple and amber. The hopeless romantic in me is smiling from this picture in my mind–how scweeeeet! 

When she saw Isaac, Rebekah did a very important thing. She got down from her camel. We must get off our high horses–our high points of pride–and come to a place of humility, before attaining The Promise.

She did not assume who Isaac was. She asked, “Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?” When we meet someone who catches our eye, let us ask the Lord, “Who is that man / woman coming out to meet me?”

We can also learn from Isaac, who did not remain seated on the field, meditating if this is what he thinks it is! He went out there to meet them.

When the servant answered, “He is my master,” Rebekah took her veil and covered herself. It is a bridal custom, to remain ‘hidden’, until the marriage. By her actions, she showed that she was ready. Her heart was set to be the bride, so she presented herself like one, as a precious gem, hidden away for whom her heart treasures–for her future groom.

And like Isaac, as we walk in faith towards our promise, God has a Beautiful Surprise for us–far more than we can hope or imagine.

In verse 67, “Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.” What is our intention when we ‘bring home’ our ‘Isaac’ or ‘Rebekah’? Isaac honoured his parents and Rebekah, and for him, marriage (Commitment) came first, before ‘he loved her’ (Feelings)—which is the way it should be for us.

And in the end, He was comforted from his time of loss… by LOVE.

Tomorrow, it’s Valentine’s Day.

Today, my sis held up a giant heart shape cookie the size of a pizza for us to see on skype, repeating what the boy had said, “This is the best I can do.” The sweetie had given my sis and her friend, a cookie each, after hearing her echo aloud the sentiments of many young hearts, dreading the approaching date of February 14, “Valentine’s day is so sad!”

“People are scared to be alone,” Viv said last Thursday, as we compared notes on our observation of people’s fearful reaction to Valentine’s Day.

One striking statement someone had made on Facebook was a caption above her picture, “Who is alone this Valentine’s Day?” while another had already declared she’ll be ‘dating God’ on February the 14th. I smile at my young friends. I remember all too clearly, how it was like, to feel this way.

Valentine’s Day is a day where I used to attach my sense of self-worth to roses and chocolates and dinners and presents. These ‘things’ used to matter a lot to me—I had mistakenly thought that it showed my worth.

Our worth cannot be measured by things. We are more than our gifts, talents, abilities, promises and potential. “The measure of a man is the measure of his heart, and the measure of his heart, is the measure of his Love” – Misty Edwards. Be rooted in His Love beyond measure.

Let us see beyond the Gifts—the approaching camels and what it can offer—to see the Giver. Let us know the Person behind the Promise.

“Who is that man…?” Rebecca asked. Isaac, when he finally saw past the camels to the one walking beside it, probably wondered the same about the unmistakable curves of a feminine silhouette, her eyes locked in his.

It is a beautiful moment in time that came together, after a long journey that has tested their faith, hope and love. Most importantly, in verse 63, it says, he looked up. In verse 64, we read that, Rebekah also looked up.

Both of them had their gaze firmly fixed on God, who fulfils His promises.

Looking in the Right Direction, they saw themselves in each other’s eyes.

No matter what journey you’re on, keep looking Up in Faith to God.

He can answer, before you’ve even finished praying in your heart (read Gen 24:45). Better still, ask “not my will, but Yours be done”. What He has in mind for you, is more than you could ever ask for. Allow Him to be your Meditation and your Consolation—for He loves you dearly.

Happy Valentine’s Day, Lovers!




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

The Love Culture on FB: https://www.facebook.com/theloveculture