“Each person in your life is sent there for your benefit and to teach you a lesson.” – Mastin Kipp

Love this post by Mastin Kipp: “If, for some strange reason, you have or still keep attracting lovers who only end up causing you pain, today’s words are for you.

Each person in your life is sent there for your benefit and to teach you a lesson. The lesson could be how to trust yourself. The lesson could be that you are loved. The lesson could be to heal a wound from your past, or perhaps, the lesson could be forgiveness.

Now, think about this. If someone is sent into your life to teach you forgiveness, how else could you learn the lesson of forgiveness than by being betrayed or let down by someone you care for deeply? Or, if the lesson is to teach you how to trust yourself, then how else could you learn except by getting into a relationship where you KNEW from the beginning that is wasn’t good for you, but you proceeded anyway?

Some lessons come bearing pain; others come bearing great pleasure and reward. YOUR task is to see the people who are coming in and out of your life from a larger perspective and ask yourself what you are learning from each person. YOU have consciously or unconsciously chosen who the people are in your life.

As a result, you are either consciously or unconsciously signing up for a lesson from each person you allow into your life experience. If you keep choosing people to fill your life experience who you know deep down aren’t healthy for you, but that being with them is better than being alone, then you are signing up for a painful lesson, AGAIN, about how to trust yourself.

You will keep attracting people into your life who leave that painful aftertaste until you start to trust yourself. Then, slowly but surely, your life will begin to change.

When you trust yourself and ask more of The Uni-verse, your attraction point changes and the people in your life change as a result.

If you want to attract that loving person, then ask more from The Uni-verse.

Embrace being alone. Accept that it will happen in perfect time, but not necessarily on YOUR schedule. Forgive past lovers, for they have only come bearing the gift of a lesson. When you forgive, you create more room in your life for BIG LOVE.

Feel the pain, but then step back and see the lesson. Next time, learn from the past and make a new choice.

You are the co-creator of your life with the choices you make. Do you want to keep making the same mistake, or are you ready to graduate and experience BIG LOVE in your life? The choice is yours ­ make it consciously, and make it TODAY!”

Lots of LOVE,
Mastin

Read this gem of an article from The Daily Love ❤ Disclaimer: Just because I share an insight by Mastin / The Daily Love, does not mean I am aligned with their teachings / programmes in all its entirety. There will always be things we agree with /don’t agree with. Please apply personal discernment. Take what you can use, leave out the rest.

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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“When we hang on to our baggage, our hurt is what we bring to the table. In essence, we perpetuate our pain.” – Chrissy

Unload Your Baggage… All Of It.

“I’m putting this on the main page because it is the most important tip; it’s also the hardest.  The word “baggage” as it refers to relationships is so overused and has such ugly connotations that it’s easy to ignore it.  

Let’s tell the truth:  every single one of us has experienced the pain of being heart broken, let down, lied to or hurt (physically or emotionally) by someone close to us.  It’s not bad, it’s just a part of being a human.  

What we seldom acknowledge is the impact it has on our self, our view of the world and others and how we treat people.  

Because being in a relationship involves letting someone be close to us, specific things that the other person says or does can trigger that pain without notice.  

In an instant, using your emotional reflexes you react as though that person was the same person from your past who caused the pain in the first place.  

Once the dust settles, you may or may not realize the source of what hurts you; the trouble is that you haven’t let it go.

Upon failure of a relationship, I hear so many people, not just women, say, “I have trust issues.”  Really?  It’s great that you know that.  Now, deal with it.  Another one I hear quite a bit is, “I have issues with my mother/father.”  Fantastic.  Don’t we all?  Resolve the issues.  Get help.  See a counselor.  Take the Landmark Forum.  Do something about your issues so that you can stop hurting others and inviting people into your life who will hurt you.  

We’re adults and can now choose who we spend our time with and who we don’t.  Nobody has time for an unhealthy relationship or repeating dating patterns.  Remember, efficiency.

When starting a relationship of any kind, our partner never says, “I can’t wait for you to hurt me.”  Yet, when we hang on to our baggage, our hurt is what we bring to the table.  In essence, we perpetuate our pain.  

We do this through fight-or-flight responses born out of deep insecurity caused by pain from our past.  Some examples are lashing out, withdrawing, breaking up, lying, withholding true emotion or being passive-aggressive, to name a few.  

Since we’ve been on the receiving end of these behaviors at some point or another, we know how hurtful they are to the other person.  Often they’re left scratching their head asking, “What did I do?” or, “What just happened here?”

It’s not who we really are at all.  Imagine what life would be like if you could be the person you really are instead of a series of pain-inspired responses?  Dealing with the pain from our past breaks this painful cycle.  

The bottom line:  if you have baggage you have no business pursuing a relationship.

It sounds ugly, I know.  Hurting others is ugly too.  Hope is in the healing, though.  When we give ourselves the opportunity to heal, we let go of our baggage.  

We do end up having the experience of being lighter.  It’s easier to smile, spread joy and tell the truth in love.  It’s easier to love and be loved.” – Chrissy

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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