What better time to get reconnected with what LOVE is, than Today? And Everyday ‘ever after’ that!
My favourite definition of LOVE is my favourite because it’s so practical:
“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Cor 13:4-7 (NIV)
Truth be told. I used to look at this definition of love and think, “When I get to heaven, maybe!” But in 2010, when my life got Shaken up to Awaken me, I began to realise something. It’s impossible to Love others in this way, only if I haven’t learned how to apply this definition of Love to myself.
Start with YOU.
GET CONSCIOUS of the way You Love You.
Love is patient, love is kind: Are you patient, with you? Are you kind, with you?
Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud: SELF-LOVE, my lovers. When we learn SELF-LOVE, we begin to see that it’s not about Compete and Compare, it’s about Complete and Complement! (I got schooled on these AMAZING 4Cs by my spiritual mentor Rinda. Thanks RINDA!)
Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs: Love means, Honor. Are you honouring yourself? Only when you learn to Honor yourself, can you truly Honor others. If you need to know that You Matter, begin by letting others know They Matter. And remember, be easier on yourself. Are you easily angered with you? Are you still holding on to your past mistakes? Be gentle with you. FORGIVE You. Learn what you can, then Let Go.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth: Are you replaying old stories of old hurts and old wounds and old offences and old betrayals and old mistakes, over and over again like a spoilt record–like you’re enjoying it? Pause. Stop. Recognise that this mind-pattern is a soul’s cry for Love. It’s time to Love the hurting, wounded, offended, betrayed, and flawed person in you. It’s also time to recognise that we are are more alike than unalike. For every suffering someone has inflicted on us, we too, may have unconsciously or consciously, caused suffering to others–perhaps in different ways and form. But suffering is still suffering.
Go in a new direction TODAY (and everyday after that). It’s time to be reconnected with the truth of You. The truth is that you’re WORTHY of Love, just as you are, right now. You don’t have to be perfect, to Be Loved. You are SO LOVED. More than you can ever imagine. Pray for your eyes to be opened to this truth, again and again, day after day.
Love always protects: Are you protecting you? I am not talking about being defensive. I am talking about loving yourself enough to make CARING decisions that takes care of you. Only when you learn to protect yourself, can you do the same for others.
This could mean loving yourself enough to walk out on a relationship that is no longer Honoring you. You don’t actually love anyone, if you can’t even love yourself enough to extricate yourself from a sad and bad situation.
This could mean loving yourself enough to drink responsibly, and never drinking to the point of regretting some things you did when you were drunk. Some things can never be undone. But it’s never too late to learn. ‘When I know better, I do better, that’s all.’ – Maya Angelou.
Love always trusts: Are you Trustworthy? Can YOU keep your promises to yourself? Everyday is another opportunity to be the kind of person YOU can trust. Learning to Trust You can come from painful outcomes in and out of a relationship. Chances are, your instincts already knew from the beginning this person was not right for you. It’s OK. Consider it as a painful lesson, and therefore a Gift, in learning to Trust You more next time.
And remember, LOVE ‘always hopes, always perseveres’: Don’t lose HOPE on you. Dare Yourself to hope again. DREAM UP good things for YOU and keep growing in that direction. Never give up believing in you. In relationships, someone can walk out on you for their own selfish reasons, but that’s just a reflection of their growth. YOU can choose to never walk out on you. Never let YOU go. Keep GROWING. Grow forward, with you.
I’m a big believer in turning my STRUGGLE into STRENGTH. So I must confess. After all this time, I still get a little nervous come Valentine’s. I still find myself dreading the feeling of Single Awareness Day and feel a little SAD! ;- ) It’s silly, but IT’S REAL. And we know I’m not the only one. WE all struggle with insecurity. The beauty of it is TODAY (and everyday after this) is another wonderful opportunity to remind myself / ourselves:
L-O-V-E is not just for the lucky few. It’s for Everyone! Happy Valentine’s Day, Lovers!
“The measure of a man, is the measure of his heart, and the measure of his heart, is the measure of his Love… You don’t measure me, like men, they see. You’re looking at my heart, the core of me… Your eyes of Fire, sees differently. Keep me in the gaze of Love… ” – Misty Edwards & David Brymer
With ALL my Love,
“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb
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