L-O-V-E is not just for the lucky few. It’s for Everyone. Happy Valentine’s Day.

What better time to get reconnected with what LOVE is, than Today? And Everyday ‘ever after’ that!

My favourite definition of LOVE is my favourite because it’s so practical:

“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Cor 13:4-7 (NIV)

Truth be told. I used to look at this definition of love and think, “When I get to heaven, maybe!” But in 2010, when my life got Shaken up to Awaken me, I began to realise something. It’s impossible to Love others in this way, only if I haven’t learned how to apply this definition of Love to myself.

Start with YOU.

GET CONSCIOUS of the way You Love You.

Love is patient, love is kind: Are you patient, with you? Are you kind, with you?

Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud: SELF-LOVE, my lovers. When we learn SELF-LOVE, we begin to see that it’s not about Compete and Compare, it’s about Complete and Complement! (I got schooled on these AMAZING 4Cs by my spiritual mentor Rinda. Thanks RINDA!)

Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs: Love means, Honor. Are you honouring yourself? Only when you learn to Honor yourself, can you truly Honor others. If you need to know that You Matter, begin by letting others know They Matter. And remember, be easier on yourself. Are you easily angered with you? Are you still holding on to your past mistakes? Be gentle with you. FORGIVE You. Learn what you can, then Let Go.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth: Are you replaying old stories of old hurts and old wounds and old offences and old betrayals and old mistakes, over and over again like a spoilt record–like you’re enjoying it? Pause. Stop. Recognise that this mind-pattern is a soul’s cry for Love. It’s time to Love the hurting, wounded, offended, betrayed, and flawed person in you. It’s also time to recognise that we are are more alike than unalike. For every suffering someone has inflicted on us, we too, may have unconsciously or consciously, caused suffering to others–perhaps in different ways and form. But suffering is still suffering.

Go in a new direction TODAY (and everyday after that). It’s time to be reconnected with the truth of You. The truth is that you’re WORTHY of Love, just as you are, right now. You don’t have to be perfect, to Be Loved. You are SO LOVED. More than you can ever imagine. Pray for your eyes to be opened to this truth, again and again, day after day.  

Love always protects: Are you protecting you? I am not talking about being defensive. I am talking about loving yourself enough to make CARING decisions that takes care of you. Only when you learn to protect yourself, can you do the same for others.

This could mean loving yourself enough to walk out on a relationship that is no longer Honoring you. You don’t actually love anyone, if you can’t even love yourself enough to extricate yourself from a sad and bad situation.

This could mean loving yourself enough to drink responsibly, and never drinking to the point of regretting some things you did when you were drunk. Some things can never be undone. But it’s never too late to learn. ‘When I know better, I do better, that’s all.’ – Maya Angelou.  

Love always trusts: Are you Trustworthy? Can YOU keep your promises to yourself? Everyday is another opportunity to be the kind of person YOU can trust. Learning to Trust You can come from painful outcomes in and out of a relationship. Chances are, your instincts already knew from the beginning this person was not right for you. It’s OK. Consider it as a painful lesson, and therefore a Gift, in learning to Trust You more next time.

And remember, LOVE ‘always hopes, always perseveres’: Don’t lose HOPE on you. Dare Yourself to hope again. DREAM UP good things for YOU and keep growing in that direction. Never give up believing in you. In relationships, someone can walk out on you for their own selfish reasons, but that’s just a reflection of their growth. YOU can choose to never walk out on you. Never let YOU go. Keep GROWING. Grow forward, with you.

That’s LOVE!

I’m a big believer in turning my STRUGGLE into STRENGTH. So I must confess. After all this time, I still get a little nervous come Valentine’s. I still find myself dreading the feeling of Single Awareness Day and feel a little SAD! ;- ) It’s silly, but IT’S REAL. And we know I’m not the only one. WE all struggle with insecurity. The beauty of it is TODAY (and everyday after this) is another wonderful opportunity to remind myself / ourselves:

L-O-V-E is not just for the lucky few. It’s for Everyone! Happy Valentine’s Day, Lovers!  

“The measure of a man, is the measure of his heart, and the measure of his heart, is the measure of his Love… You don’t measure me, like men, they see. You’re looking at my heart, the core of me… Your eyes of Fire, sees differently. Keep me in the gaze of Love… ” – Misty Edwards & David Brymer

With ALL my Love,


The Love Culture


“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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Hey Love, are you Patient with You?

It’s funny (and I love it) how time and time again, I am reminded that the very thing you teach, is the very thing you need to learn.

On Sunday, a beautiful young lady was sharing her heart out with me and we got to the topic of Self-Love.

I listened to her idea of Self-Love and suggested for her to check out 1st Corinthians 13. “Love is Patient, Love is Kind.”

Are you Patient, with You? Are you Kind, to You?

When we are patient with ourselves, we are kind to ourselves.

How we are with ourselves, is how we are with others.

That’s why learning and practising Self-love is important.

Last night, a good friend of mine was smiling kindly when he asked, “Are you a Patient person?”

I came up with all my answers and reasoning, the flipside of Patience and Impatience, how each virtue has its Pros and Cons. I concluded that I’m working on it, and that compared to last time, my level of Patience with myself and others, has increased so much more.

So he got specific, “In a scale of 1 to 10, how Patient do you think you are?”

I said 5.

“There you go… Ask any of your trusted friends. Would they describe you as Patient? You need to be Patient for what you want to do…”

Good reminder.

But at first Fear does what it does best, freaks out, and asks, “Does that mean I cannot do what I want to do, since it’s not in my nature and I’m not PATIENT ENOUGH?”

I listened to my Fear, and allowed it to Inform me.

Love picks up from there, and says, “It’s good you’re Aware of what you need. All of us have different strengths, and different area of struggles. You CAN do what you want to do. Keep GROWING and cultivating Patience, that’s all. 

Sounds like a good deal.

Looking back at past relationships, the ONE quality that stands out to me in a Loved One is Patience. They never speak about patience or announce that they are being patient. They don’t even ask of it, from me. They just exude patience, and show it in the way they are with me—the best way they can, for as long as they can, before they hit their human limitations.

I love how GENTLE they are, when they point out something I need to pay attention to. For me, a sure sign someone is Patient with you, is how Gentle they are with you.

It leaves a lasting impression, long after that moment has passed or when they’re gone. This lasting quality is LOVE in action. It feels warm and gentle to your soul.

It feels LOVING.

You feel LOVED.

It’s true what Maya Angelou says. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Last night, though the question, “Are you a Patient person?” made me uncomfortable at first, the way it was being asked felt gentle, felt loving, in the end.

That’s Patience, in action.

Being reminded that PATIENCE always feels good in the end, makes it worth the effort of practising Patience, though it’s not easy, initially.

It gets easier with practice.

And I have a feeling, it gets easier and easier because you’re reminded more and more that being PATIENT with yourself and others feels good.

It feels really good.

And you know, as an encouragement to others who are more hot-blooded like I am (LOL!), they say that what you admire in others, already exists in you.

You can’t possibly see and admire something in others, when you don’t already have it within yourself. We see others, as we are.

The idea is to really dig in, and find a way to unearth that quality you admire in others, that’s already hidden within you.

It takes Patience, but You’re worth it.

“Have patience with all things, but first of all, yourself.” – St. Francis de Sales 




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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Ants Can Show You The Way To Love

Ants are great teachers of Love… especially the first aspect of ‘Love is Patient’. 

What do I mean by that?

Well, I’ve been gifted with a special situation where tiny little red ants would appear from seemingly nowhere, land on my arms and sink their pincers in. Ouch! But because I believe ants are not the problem (and that it’s really us not keeping clean enough–in my instance, it would be food / bowls / coffee left on the desk while I’m working), I’ll just blow at the tiny ant, so it’ll fly away, and land on the floor where it came from.

Flicking the ant off is not an option–the strength of our hand crushes it.

So this went on for months. On and off, while working, I’ll feel a sharp pain, and pause to blow the lucky ant off. I say ‘lucky’ because I half suspect or imagine they’ve passed around a message to bored ants wanting to experience what it’s like to bungee jump off my arm!!!

Anyway. One day… I wasn’t in a good mood at all. In fact, I was getting agitated and impatient over something I can’t even remember now. In the midst of that, bam! I slapped at whatever was causing me pain to push it off my arm when I realised 1 second too late what I’ve done to the ant.

By observing my self at that moment, I see that when I allow myself to be dictated by Impatience and reflex reaction towards pain, I end up causing more pain–or in this case, the untimely death of an ant. 

What is the big deal? You may ask.

It’s just an ant! You may say.

I do pray that one day, you will be filled with so much Love that you can’t help but even feel Love for ‘pesky’ little bugs like Ants. Believe it or not, they do have their place on earth, even right beside you, and on your arm. For they are God’s creatures, a divine creation, just like you, put here for a purpose. And if you allow them to, they can be your Teachers.

That aside, I’m not here to debate how you feel about ants–that’s not the point. Let’s focus on the big picture: 1. Can I allow people / creatures / situations that “test my patience” to teach me something about myself? 2. Can I be more aware of my own reaction / response when “tested?” 3. What does my Impatience say about my ability to Love? 4. What were the consequences of me not caring enough to be Patient with someone, in the past? 5. How can I learn and grow from it?

“Love is a learned, emotional reaction. It is a response to a learned group of stimuli and behaviours.

Like all learned behavior, it is effected by the interaction of the learner with his environment…

Love is a dynamic interaction, lived every second of our lives, all of our lives…

…One learns to react in a particular way to a certain degree to a specific stimulus. That reaction will be the visible index of his love…

The more he learns, the more his opportunities to change his behavorial responses and thus expand his ability to love…

If one wishes to know love, one must live love, in action.” – Leo Buscaglia, ‘Love’ – pg 90, 91

Can today be the day you practice expanding your ability to Love? 🙂

The more you Be Love, the sooner you’ll see: Love Attracts Love. 

But don’t take my word for it. Grow in Love. Discover it for yourself.




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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