“You can’t avoid life’s potholes… the good news is there is far more joy and happiness available to you when you choose to see it.”

You can’t avoid life’s potholes. No one gets a free pass or a smooth road. There will be, we’re sorry to say, some sorrow, fear, pain, sadness or other stress.  But, the good news is that there is far more joy and happiness available to you when you choose to see it. Let’s take a moment to note those wonderful things, moments, memories or gifts in our lives.” – queenofyourownlife.com

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Unique pothole at my apartment’s carpark – Love, Mish. ps: Do you see what I see?

“…while some of us get hardened by life, others are somehow tenderized by it — softened, gentled, humbled. The people whom I love and admire most are those who walk through the fire and somehow manage to keep their humor, their grace, their wonder, and yes, their innocence. Not through naiveté, mind you, but through muscular, decisive acts of love.

That, to me, is a hero’s path.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

Unique pothole at my apartment's carpark

Unique pothole at my apartment’s carpark – Love, Mish. ps: Do you see what I see?

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa

Unique pothole at my apartment's carpark

Unique pothole at my apartment’s carpark – Love, Mish. ps: Do you see what I see?

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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When things seem to be going wrong, it may actually be right on course.

Maintaining that inner calm when everything seems to be going wrong is not just tricky, it’s frustratingly hard! 

Things are harder to deal with when we lack the clarity of understanding.

So sometimes we need a gentle reminder–to help us understand a little better. 

Perhaps it’s time for me to be reminded of some Truths today:

“When things seem to be going wrong, it may actually be right on course.”

Was up super early this morning. Left for work earlier than usual but ended up running into a series of obstacles and setbacks, making me late!

The gate closed instead of letting me through after a touch in at the card fare reader. The queue at the platform was extra long–so long I had to take the next train, there just wasn’t enough room. When we finally got on, further up, the train jammed and stopped moving. Why, why, why?!

Half an hour later, I’ve arrived at my destination–just on time for the free feeder bus! That’s why #1. The bus driver waited and waited till the bus filled up and had just started moving when a lady in red rushed over.

The bus stopped.

She kept looking at the front door. It was closed and stayed closed. The embarrassed smile creeping up her face made obvious the thoughts running across her mind. “Silly me. The bus is not stopping. The door will not open. They’re leaving without me.” Her eyes was so fixated on that closed door in the distance, she didn’t notice the door right at the back that was much closer to her–and wide open! The bus waited till she realized and moved as soon as she hopped on! That’s why #2. For all who had eyes to see, what played out before us was a gentle reminder.

“Sometimes we look so long at the closed door, we don’t see the one that is wide open!”

Soon as I arrived at the office, my boss was just on his way out for breakfast. “Goooood morning!” he opened the glass door, with a dramatic bow and a cheeky smile. “Join us for breakfast?” What seemed like a set back in the beginning turned out to be perfect timing, in the end.

Midway through breakfast, the client called. This morning’s meeting was cancelled. My boss was crestfallen. He’s been eager to get this session over with–other appointments have been pushed aside for this one. Definitely not the way he wanted to start his day. After what happened on the way here, I had Faith this might be making room for something better.

Then just before noon, I received a text. MH was on his way to the office. He’s bringing us mooncake. The next hour during lunch, tales of his backpacking adventure mesmerized the whole office. The best story of all was the ‘mistake’ that was ‘meant to be’ at Cabin 32! We had such a great time catching up with our surprise visitor of the day–thing is, we wouldn’t have seen him or heard his stories if the meeting was on!

A running theme for today it seems. And a smacking good reminder:

“When things seem to be going wrong, it may actually be right on course.”

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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Learning Through Our Encounters With Others

Sometimes, too caught up in the appearances of things, I walk away from encounters with friends and strangers, not realizing what has been deposited in me, by them.

Then, out of the blue, the flashes of conversations strike a path through the haze of my mind to make clear some valuable lessons I’ve learnt through these Encounters.

On difficult moments: “Celebrate little victories…” – S was explaining how he kept a cool head during the kidnap simulations in Capetown. When the line between reality and make-pretend becomes blur, and it’s tempting to break down under the tension, stress and fear, “celebrate little victories,” they are taught. “That little contact with someone… the ability to breathe.” 

I like that this is something I can apply Everyday, when the going gets tough.

On ex’s and break ups: “I like to think of it as Life Sequence Partner… when we see each other on the road, we can still say hi and have a drink and then go our separate ways… no ill feelings, no need to be rude…” – A.

What an idea. Thinking of an Ex as a “Life Sequence Partner”. Kinda like it. 

On growing old together: “Circumstances today have changed… I really admire couples who’ve been together for 20 years… What makes them stick?” – A asked. “Love,” – L replied.

Love really is all. Love is also a lot of work–anything good is. It’s worth it.

“If you’re brave enough to leave behind everything familiar and comforting, which can be anything from your house to bitter, old resentments, and set out on a truth-seeking journey, either externally or internally, and if you are truly willing to regard everything that happens to you on that journey as a clue and if you accept everyone you meet along the way as a teacher and if you are prepared, most of all, to face and forgive some very difficult realities about yourself, then the truth will not be withheld from you.” – Liz Gilbert, Eat Pray Love.

What little victories can you / did you celebrate today / this week?

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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