Do Nothing To Prove Your Worth. Just BE.

Believe it or not, it takes courage to do nothing.

When you take a moment to “do nothing”, there is nothing you can take claim to, to take pride in, to boost your ego with, to complain about or put blame on or distract yourself with.


You are just left with you.

Hours and hours and hours of you.

If our identity, worth and purpose is tied up with the doing, the moment we cease to do something, it’s so easy to think we are good for nothing.

When people ask me what I’m doing, and I answer “Nothing,” it boggles their mind. It is such an unnatural thing for them so when I say nothing more to that, they would have all the answers figured out and tell me why I’m doing nothing. Hahs! So I let them talk and continue doing… nothing. 🙂

Today, I thought I’d do something.

I made a fitting appointment with a ROX/STA customer. Did vocal recordings for a music project. And went hunting for LOVE by Leo Buscaglia at Times Bookstore but there was none. So I ended up at the Self-Help corner. I love personal growth and motivationals. But today, the shelves and shelves of books, telling me how to be better, more confident, more successful, more effective, more this and that was just too much…

…I felt tired and walked away.

The truth is, just our being alive, makes all the difference in the world.

A ‘Wiseman’ named Evan Mak taught me that. And he does it so well by doing nothing. 🙂 He wakes. He smiles. He cries. He farts. He poops. He frowns. He laughs. He sleeps. That is all. In the real world, if we were to measure his actions in terms of money, he is doing “nothing”…

…When in fact, he is doing everything.

Life has never been the same again since the day he was placed in the arms of his adoptive parents. No words could describe their Joy.

Even his adoptive grandmother, who is said to be sickly before his existence, now gets well in a day, praying to live to watch him grow. 🙂

The baby didn’t have to do anything to be of value.

He already is–just by BEING alive, BEING him, BEING in their lives.

If you could realise the meaning of this in the deepest sense, you’d stop chasing after a million things ‘to do’ to validate your existence, or to prove your identity, worth and purpose.

Baby Evan has shown the way at 3 months old:

Do nothing to prove your worth.

Just BE.

Sometimes this means doing nothing for a while… 





“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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