Assumption Kills

“See the stray dogs you like?! They just killed a cat!!!” my sister ran up the stairs and spat out, before retreating back to her room. She made me feel like I was responsible for its death! She’s obviously upset. So I put on my glasses and went down to have a look. She heard me coming and came out to join me at the balcony.

“Where’s the cat?”

“There!” she pointed to a striped orange cat, lying motionless on my neighbour’s backyard. “The neighbours tried to stop the dogs by yelling and making noise, but it’s too late. Look what the dogs did!

The poor cat…”

I felt bad.

When I first heard the cat hissing and growling, I was buzy trying to put my thoughts into words for this post (click the link to read my Vision story). So I assumed the cat was having some fun in the jungle… they usually make loud noises when they’re feeling good, don’t they?

Then when I heard animals charging through the forest and dogs barking away, I assumed the dogs were chasing after wild boars, that’s what they do, sometimes.

Then when I heard the cat and the dogs getting louder and louder, I just assumed the cat and the dogs were doing their own separate thing, but all at the same time, and I wished they weren’t making so much noise! I’m trying to concentrate on my writing here!

But the situation was heating up. And this time around, I heard my neighbours “barking” at the dogs by imitating the noises the dogs were making and yelling at them. I assumed they were intolerant people, and I assumed they were assuming the cat was in trouble and punishing the dogs for making noise!

I went on writing, tuning the whole drama out… till all is quiet.

Till my sister ran up with the news of the dead cat.

“I should’ve done something,” my sister said later, feeling bad that she just watched the whole thing from the window. I felt exactly the same now. “I should’ve done something instead of assuming things,”

The whole time the cat was fighting for its life and making so much noise to draw attention, I was buzy assuming and making up stories about what it was experiencing–so I can go on working on my blog, uninterrupted.

This habit of assuming a lot, really needs to be looked at and dealt with.

Just a couple of weeks ago, 4 of my guppies died ‘cos I assumed the tank was well taken care of. Had I looked at the filter earlier, I could’ve stopped the fungus growth in its track before it claimed a few lives.

Just a month ago, a new relationship (or whatever it was) faded to nothingness, ‘cos we assumed certain things, which led to increasing fear, heaviness, and insecurities on both sides. All we had to do was clarify instead of assuming. By now, it’s clear it is what it is, and we’re friends.

But what a reminder Today: “Assumption Kills.” This applies to everything. Relationship. Workplace. Friendships. Beliefs. Pets. Life.

So my question to myself is, what am I assuming again? What questions can I ask instead? How can I do something about what’s bothering me instead of assuming and letting my assumptions drive me up the wall?

Wow. Sorry cat… Next time, I’ll know better than to assume… – _ –

My boss has a favourite saying he likes to quote, “To Assume is to make an ‘Ass’ of ‘U’ and Me’.” Last night, a friend reminded me of this line after I shared this story of how the cat died while I was busy being an “ass”.

What are we assuming today? What questions can we ask instead? How can we do something about what’s bothering us instead of assuming and letting IT (our assumptions) drive us up the wall? 

Let’s remember to ASK / find out, instead of making a habit out of ASS-uming things.

Love,

Mish.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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What’s Wrong With The World

Carly & Her Twin Sister--Pic from Carlysvoice.com

What is wrong with the world? Iʼm sure this question has been pondered for hundreds of thousands of years.

Is it greed, corruption and need for power that is wrong with the world? Is it the fact that many wars have been started by selfishness, racism, ignorance and lack of understanding of humankind?

This question could have many answers thatʼs why my answer is that what is wrong with the world is that there is too many things wrong with the world.

I have always been a optimistic thinker and I would like to think I still am but itʼs hard not to be perceive as a pessimist when you are talking about the world.

If you really stop to think about the world with everything that is wrong with it from wars to major diseases to economic government problems you wouldnʼt even scratch the surface…

…The optimist in me would like to think that what we need to do is take each problem prioritize it and systematically come up with the answers. We all know this answer sounds better on paper then in real life. So where does that leave us?

A wise man once told me that man kind needs problems because with out problems we would not have answers and with out answers we would not have purpose.

Does this mean we should just live in a world with problems? No this just means we should solve the problems we can and try to under stand the problems we can’t.

I think life is like a revolving door some times it spins out of control and sometime it spins just the right speed that we can walk through it. I guess what I’m saying is there’s always going to be something wrong with the world itʼs what we do about it is that counts.

This is a short excerpt of Carly’s thoughts on ‘What’s Wrong With The World’. Carly is diagnosed with Autism but her ability to communicate her thoughts and feelings through words by typing them out, is astounding to say the least. Read her full written work here http://carlysvoice.com/

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“My name is Carly Fleischmann and as long as I can remember I’ve been diagnosed with autism.

I am not able to talk out of my mouth, however I have found another way to communicate by spelling on my computer. (and yes that is me typing on the computer by myself)

I used to think I was the only kid with autism who communicates by spelling but last year I met a group of kids that communicate the same way. In fact some are even faster at typing then I am.

Last year a story about my life was shown on ABC news, CNN and CTV here in Canada.

After my story was played I kept on getting lots of emails from moms, dads, kids and people from different countries asking me all sorts of questions about autism. I think people get a lot of their information from so-called experts but I think what happens is that experts can’t give an explanation to certain questions. How can you explain something you have not lived or if you don’t know what it’s like to have it? If a horse is sick, you don’t ask a fish what’s wrong with the horse. You go right to the horse’s mouth.”  http://carlysvoice.com/