Keys To Change

“Sometimes you hold onto keys that are from the past. I found a ring of keys from my old house. I don’t know why I save them, and there were so many!

But none of them fit any of the locks of where I am now dwelling. Many are trying to use old keys in the new place God has brought them. It’s useless to try to use old keys in your new place.

You need new keys for where you are now. Don’t be afraid to let go of old ways of doing things. “It worked before” you say! But this is a new day.

And you are in a new place. Let go of what you’ve been holding onto that is no longer working, and reach into what God has before you.” – Barbara Lanzdorf

It was a jaw-dropping moment when I read this on my facebook’s newsfeed. These were my thoughts exactly today. Amazing how there’s no escaping when there’s a lesson to be learnt!

It’s clear procrastination is not serving me any more–not that it ever has.

But it was allowed ‘cos the pleasure of seeing results gained in the last minute outweighed the pain. My mind associates this bad habit with a sense of reward!

The pressure from leaving things to the eleventh hour forces me to focus in that few remaining hours to get the job done–and it works–at the expense of sleep.

The problem with this habit is that deadlines keeps getting pushed and you find yourself making excuses you know you shouldn’t be making. The worst thing is that time is wasted on all sides and my body suffers for it.

Monday, on the train on the way home from work, I could hardly keep my eyes open and was transformed into a human pendulum. Every time I shook myself awake, I could see the guy seating across me watching and wondering what’s up…

Discipline and Focus are two traits I deeply admire and desire for myself.

2013. Let this be the year I discover how disciplined and focused I can be!

ps: What’s Discipline and Focus got to do with Love? Everything. It’s part of Self-Love. You know it’s good for you, so choose what’s good. It’s part of Respecting Others and Yourself, which again boils down to Loving Others and Yourself enough to do what’s right, i.e Keeping Promises Made. This is one aspect of Love that I / We get to work on this year. I mean, I know I’m not the only procrastinator in this world… come on now! 😉 So yes, I’m talking you and me both! 




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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2013 Booster: “It was safe on that mountain of excuses, but a bird is meant to fly. I’m not meant to live there, hiding in clefts known as fear. And neither are you!” – Inka

I’m currently working in an organization aiming to empower women and protect children in West-Bengal, India.

Part of the mountainous plan is to make a project called Asha Kiran run as self-sufficiently as possible.

(Now would be a great time to open another tab and type in, to find out more about this wonderful organization)

It is a complicated and challenging endeavour, but the hoped result is worth every obstacle fought and won.

Right now there is a lot of “no’s” standing in the way.

Quite simply, we need to see the “no” turn into a “yes”.

I know that doesn’t mean anything to you. But you can still pray it with us: no to a yes, no to a yes:)

Many of my passions and talents, even parts of my personality have been stifled and kept hidden by a devious lie; “Who am I to do anything of importance? I’m not qualified! And besides, look at ALL these talented, beautiful, brave souls that can do it so much better than I.

“Who am I to write songs? My voice is not like hers. Who am I to take photos? I’m not a professional. I am not enough. I’m happy to stand back and let others go and do.”

Only, that is not true.

Here—in the midst of project and product planning– I’ve felt like a baby bird, who’s mother nudges the little one with her beak and pushes the baby, right off the cliff.

“Off you go little one!” she says,

“I know your wings will carry you if you only open them wide and flap with all your might. You will look silly for a while, flap flap flapping your little wings, being tossed by winds greater then you. But as you try, you will learn. You will learn to read the winds, dive and soar. You will learn to fly with grace. Fly low and fly high. So off you go little one.”

It all starts with the nudge.

It was safe on that mountain of excuses, but a bird is meant to fly. I’m not meant to live there, hiding in clefts known as fear. And neither are you!

I’ve been asking myself; what purpose does downplaying my God-given persona and gifts serve? It serves NO purpose. Culturally we are taught not to give praise, lest a child become proud! So we learn to downplay and wrongly assume it to be the equivalent of humility.

How sad. How sad that the Creator, who made me with such inspiration, creativity, love and deep affection, now has to hear me say what an inadequate job He did. Should He not be the judge of His own creation? Seeing as I had nothing to do with the creation process.

I didn’t decide the size of my nose or the tone of my laughter. I didn’t pick my gifts or choose an IQ level fit for myself. It was all Him. For in Him I live and move and have my being. His opinion is that I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Such sweet honour He lavishes on us, and honour is a great escort for humility, true humility.

I’m still at the very start. Often I want to flap my way back to the safety of the cleft. But I’m being taught and encouraged, gently challenged by the best.




Hailing from Finland, growing up in Turkey, and now working in West Bengal India–in a girls protection program. 21 soon 22 year old Inka Vappula is one of the two awesome contributors in a private fb group, “Don’t worry, chicken curry–a virtual scrapbook of Indian adventures”. In her own words: “I’ve only discovered this love for writing in the last 6 months or so, and thinking that anyone else would want to read what I write still sounds quite alien to me. But I’m practicing the art of jumping into challenges… and I guess this is a perfect chance to grow.”

27 Days To 2013: I Wish You Courage… For The Next 26, And For The New Year

Could the negative in our lives, be the “blackboard” on which we’ll learn and write together, a positive message of courage in the midst of fear?

Could our lives be the classroom in which our loved ones and friends can begin to understand what it means to live and to love?

Love takes courage.

We’re just 27 days away from 2013. 2012 flew by in the blink of an eye.

I wish you Courage to face what you must face before the year ends.

Courage to go into the New Year with a 100 Dreams (The idea for ‘100 Dreams’ came from Inka. Read her amazing post on The Love Culture).

Courage to “BE the change you wish to see in the world.” – Ghandi.

One of my 100 Dreams is to “Speak out on behalf of the voiceless, and for the rights of all who are vulnerable.” – Proverbs 31:8.

To lend a voice to the voiceless… enrolling awesome friends to synergise their expertise for a good cause… for our fellow human being or a furry friend… for the abandoned, the unwanted, the ‘rejects’ of our society.

2013 will be a year unlike any other. 

Dream BIG–and have the courage to

wake up and live your 100 Dreams.




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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