“…hardly anyone thinks that there is anything that needs to be learned about love. This peculiar attitude is based on several premises which either singly or combined tend to uphold it.
Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of loving, of one’s capacity to love.
Hence the problem to them is how to be loved, how to be lovable. In pursuit of this aim they follow several paths.
One, which is especially used by men, is to be successful, to be as powerful and rich as the social margin of one’s position permits.
Another, used especially by women, is to make oneself attractive, by cultivating one’s body, dress, etc.
Other ways of making oneself attractive, used both by men and women, are to develop pleasant manners, interesting conversation, to be helpful, modest, inoffensive.
Many of the ways to make oneself lovable…
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