“The Thing That Is Blind Is Not Love But Attachment.” – Anthony de Mello

“It is said that love is blind. But is it?

Actually nothing on earth is as clear-sighted as love.

The thing that is blind is not love but attachment. 

An attachment is a state of clinging that comes from the false belief that something or someone is necessary for your happiness.

Do you have any attachments–people or things that you falsely believe you could not be happy without?

Make a list of them right now before we go on to study how exactly they blind you.” – The Way To Love, ‘The Blind See’ by Anthony de Mello

“…contemplate in horror the endless list of attachments that you have become a prisoner to. Think of concrete things and persons, not abstractions…

Once your attachment had you in its grip you began to strive might and main, every waking minute of your life, to rearrange the world around you so that you could attain and maintain the objects of your attachment. This is an exhausting task that leaves you little energy for the business of living and enjoying life fully…

So instead of a life of serenity and fulfillment you are doomed to a life of frustration, anxiety, worry, insecurity, suspense, tension…

And here is something else to ponder on: Each time you are anxious and afraid, it is because you may lose or fail to get the object of your attachment, isn’t it? And each time you feel jealous, isn’t it because someone may make off with what you are attached to? And almost all of your anger comes from someone standing in the way of your attachment, isn’t it? And see how paranoid you become when your attachment is threatened–you cannot think objectively; your whole vision becomes distorted; doesn’t it? And every time you feel bored, isn’t it because you are not getting a sufficient supply of what you believe will make you happy, of what you are attached to?

And when you are depressed and miserable, the cause is there for all to see: Life is not giving you what you have convinced yourself you cannot be happy without.

Almost every negative emotion you experience is the direct outcome of an attachment.” – The Way To Love, ‘He Went Away Sad’ by Anthony de Mello

“Now the tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness–it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness; and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.

There is only one way to win the battle of attachments: Drop them.

Contrary to popular belief, dropping attachments is easy.

All you have to do is see, but really see, the following truths.

First truth: You are holding on to a false belief, namely, the belief that without this particular person or thing you will not be happy. Take your attachments one at a time and see the falseness of this belief.

Second truth: If you just enjoy things, refusing to let yourself be attached to them, that is, refusing to hold to the false belief that you will not be happy without them, you are spared all the struggle and emotional strain of protecting them and guarding them for yourself.

Has it occured to you that you can keep all the objects of your attachments without giving them up, without renouncing a single one of them and you can enjoy them even more on a nonattachment, a nonclinging basis, because you are peaceful now and relaxed and unthreatened in your enjoyment of them?

If you learn to enjoy the scent of a thousand flowers you will not cling to one or suffer when you cannot get it…

Attachments can only thrive in the darkness of illusion.

The rich man cannot enter the kingdom of joy not because he wants to be bad but because he chooses to be blind.” -The Way To Love, ‘The Eye of a Needle’ by Anthony de Mello




“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb

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