I can’t remember how our conversation got there, but it did.
“That’s why when we say our vows, we say for better or for worse… in sickness and in health,” he said, slowly and softly.
That’s the way Uncle Keith / Grandy speaks now, ever since he has his hearing aids on, and just as well.
Instead of a strong and mighty downpour of words (not that I remember him ever speaking that way)…
…his is a billowing mist, rolling gently across the hills and mountains of knowingness… slowly descending upon the layers of complexities within our inner forest…
…to rest on trampled grounds… without force… but through a quietness of spirit that feels like a refreshing dew.
And so that night, I saw this portion of the vow in a new light.
“For better or for worse…” now means more than problems related to the external and the material. It means even when he / she is at their worst as a person…
…can we continue to love them?
“…In sickness and in health” now means more than physical challenges… It means even when he / she is mentally unwell and emotionally unfit…
…can we continue to love and stand by them? Not as enablers… but as one who is willing to hear and speak the truth in love?
This vow of love transcends a man and a woman.
When we call our family and friends our loved ones… can we also love them for better or for worse… in sickness and in health?
This question can hear no answer in words if we are to be true to ourselves and others… It can only be lived, one day at a time.
The hope is in the trying.
“I set you free…”
“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”- Swedish Proverb
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